so I would never claim to have it all figured out, but I can say that I’m pretty good at solving other people’s problems. My friends come to me for love and support and advice, and I can usually give them a little nugget or two of truthy, kind, realness to help them determine what to do. It might be that they’re not over their ex or that they still have to finish college.
Okay, well, he’s probably got a pre-existing condition that makes it difficult for him to connect.
It certainly isn’t about you — he doesn’t even know all the actually-annoying things you do (and admit it, you can be really annoying sometimes)!
If you’re rejected after one or two dates, take solace in the fact that this guy doesn’t even really know you. ON RELATIONSHIPS: You don’t deserve anything better than you give. This is hard to hear, I know, but life sadly, doesn’t work that way.
And you especially don’t deserve to be with someone who is incredible, and amazing, and on the top of their game, .
Here’s a difficult exercise: think about your ideal mate.
And then ask yourself if you possess the qualities that your ideal mate possesses.
I’m not saying you have to be the person you want to date, but I’m saying you should always be working to be the best version of yourself possible.
A pre-existing condition is all the things that are blocking them from being focused on being in a relationship with you. ON FIGHTING: You can’t control anybody else’s behavior, so take power over what you can control — your feelings. They can disagree with how you perceive an event, or argue over their intentions, but if you say, “I’m hurt,” there is literally no way to logically deny that what you say is true. If you’re upset about something, remember this sentence construction: “When ____ happens, I feel _____”.
And no part of their pre-existing condition has anything to do with you. ON DATING: Instead of worrying about whether a dude likes you, ask yourself if you really like him. How many tears have I cried over a guy who, in the end, I didn’t even really like? But seriously, people are showing you who they are all the damn time, but we tend to make excuses for them, or look past behavior we might otherwise find unacceptable. When a friend or partner or family member repeatedly treats you badly, they are telling you something about themselves. Thinking in terms of feelings allows you to really get to the root of a problem — i.e.