” So instead of arguing which I used to do, I thought to myself “shit that’s going to make a great blog post”.
Thanks mom In the community I grew up in, we are raised with lots of expectations.
There are certain life paths that you follow and certain ones you don’t. I told him about my attempt to use Okcupid and the overall inefficiencies of sending out one email after another (maybe I should outsource it to India).
Once every few weeks, I go home to my parents’ house and we have dinner together.
In the last year my relationship with my parents has been better then it’s ever been. We don’t argue about much anymore, and I actually look forward to seeing them every few weeks.
Earlier this week, I was at my parents house and that thread that every single Indian person over the age of thirty(who is not in a relationship) dreads started: marriage and dating.
First my mom showed me wedding pictures of a cousin who got married a few weeks back.
I’ve said before that that it’s really important to make the distinction between settling and settling down.
Although I grew up with Indian values, the more I’ve drilled into my own personality with this journey, the more I’ve realized that I don’t identify with Indian values.I don’t even want to raise my own kids with many of these values.Then she showed me pictures of another cousin’s new born baby.Then she started to tell me about how the people in the Indian community were asking if I was going to be getting married anytime soon.In fact they’d asked so many times that she and my dad have had to develop a series of smart A#$#$ responses so that people would stop asking.Some of these responses were funny so, I’ll share them below: All of this I think was a not so subtle way to ask “why the hell don’t you have a girlfriend yet?