The one thing that will make a sociopath ‘lose it’ is for them to lose control. The second thing that a sociopath fears is exposure.He fears that people will find out who he really is. A sociopath is capable of compulsive pathological lying, manipulation and deception.He will go to great lengths and be very creative to hide his real true self.
You will notice the things that he will do to keep control.
He will say things which will hold you back, or keep you attached to him (see above), he has to keep control of you, to have any sense of control over his own life.
To the sociopath, they see you as somebody that they own.
He will do all that he can to instil fear into you, so that you will not expose him. Because the sociopath has a lack of life plan and goals in his own life, he needs to control your life.
He will tell lies about you, conduct smear campaigns, make threats against you, and will even stalk and harass you. He does this so that if you do report him to others they will not believe you. Remember that the sociopath sees YOU as the source for supply, ordinarily a person provides for themselves, and if they are generous, they provide for others too. To him you are the source for his own supply, so he fears losing you, and therefore losing his supply.
Which would mean that he would need to start again.This is why the sociopath tries to retain control at all costs. This is simply because they do not really care about anybody but themselves. One of the biggest fears for a sociopath is to lose control.They thrive on finding your weaknesses and therefore exposing your fears (although you will not be aware of this in the beginning when you are disclosing your fears to him) when he is playing Mr Perfect, and Mr Soulmate and Mr love of your life. Press their buttons, take away their control, and you will see the mask slip, and the melt down occur.A sociopath needs to have control over everything and everyone.Oh yes, they will pretend to be very laid back, life and soul and relaxed, but underneath this exterior is a simmering desire for control.